Despite being an intrinsic part of the human experience, discussions about death often elicit discomfort and unease.
In fact, this avoidance of the inevitable has fuelled a societal reluctance to openly engage with the concept of mortality.
Shemar Alleyne
I recently came across a video of a popular Guyanese Tik Toker who opened up about her experience with death and the fact that after months, she is still grieving.
“Death is real, grief is real, and support is needed,” the Tik Toker said in her 11-minute-long video.
A NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCE
Sometimes, it takes a brush with death to break through the taboo and force individuals to confront their mortality head-on.
A near-death experience has the power to transform perspectives, prompting a reevaluation of life’s priorities. It also allows for a newfound appreciation for the preciousness of existence.
In March of 2022, I found myself entangled in a horrific accident on the Greenwich Park Public Road, East Bank Essequibo – a truck collided with the minibus I was in, hitting the direct side I was seated.
The minibus after the collision
After the collision, I was ploughed into a state of darkness, and there was a presence that seemed to want to guide me through the ethereal journey.
I later regained consciousness, and with blood running down my face, I saw quite a number of persons videoing the scene and firefighters working assiduously to get those injured out of the mangled minibus. The screams and cries of those injured did not go unnoticed.
With a flame of hope and strength, I was able to endure the excruciating pain and persevere. Those injured were first rushed to the Leonora Cottage Hospital, where a number of persons were pronounced dead.
The truck that was involved in the accident
As their families came and the healthcare workers broke the news to them of the death of their loved ones, it was an inconsolable moment – a moment I hope I wouldn’t have to relive.
After the accident, most of my friends were scared of bringing up the topic of death or even near death.
But fast forward to today – 10 months later – not only does the pain remain, but I am still on the arduous journey to full recovery. I do remember that fateful morning that had me teetering on the edge between life and death.
BREAKING THE TABOO
Months after the accident, I read a statement on Facebook that said: “Today, I’m reminded that disruptions in our lives, though painful, can be powerful catalysts for growth.”
My brush with death has become a catalyst for growth and to break free from the societal taboo surrounding mortality. It has also given me a new outlook on life.
I started openly discussing my experience, encouraging others to confront their fears and engage in conversations about death.
THE BENEFITS OF BREAKING THE TABOO
Breaking the taboo of death has numerous benefits for individuals and society as a whole.
Open discussions about mortality allow for better end-of-life planning, and the possibility exists that it might reduce grief and foster a more compassionate and understanding society.
Embracing the reality of death can also lead to a deeper appreciation for life. It can also encourage us to live authentically and meaningfully.
And with the increased road carnage, we should be reminded that life is a precious gift. As such, we should engage in what makes us happy.
But on the other hand, death, though inevitable, remains a subject that many prefer to avoid.
However, I believe that engaging in open conversations about mortality can lead to personal growth and emotional resilience.
